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Setting Hard Feelings Aside for Successful Co-Parenting

Separation and divorce are considered one of the most stressful times of a person’s life. When children are involved in the divorce, emotions run high as you navigate the sea of choices, parenting the children throughout the process, and coping with life after divorce. When parents can’t agree, child custody attorneys may be necessary.

Set Your Feelings Aside for Successful Co-Parenting

We understand this is easier said than done, especially when it comes to divorce and decisions about your children. With 40 to 50% of marriages ending in divorce in the U.S., it is no wonder co-parenting is necessary and needs to be taken seriously. You didn’t set out with a plan to divorce, and protecting your child is your highest priority. Child custody attorneys can help keep you on track in that endeavor.

In trying to set feelings aside, it is important at this time to look at your ex-spouse as the parent of your child/children. You may be going through a painful divorce with him or her, but they are still the mother or father to your child. Focusing on the children, and creating a plan for custody  (now legal decision making), parenting time , a child’s education, etc., should be treated in an almost business-like manner in order to keep emotions in check.

Think about what is truly best for the children. Avoid trying to punish your soon to be ex-spouse by suggesting plans that you know will only hurt them, and possibly, in turn, hurt the children. Discussing all of the options with your divorce attorney or child custody attorney will be helpful, as they can share realistic options with you, so you don’t have to figure it all out on your own. In the end, compromise will be necessary.

When the Co-Parenting Plan Is No Longer Working, Your Child Custody Lawyer Can Help

Now that you have worked with your divorce or child custody attorneys to create an agreed-upon co-parenting plan, you will need to stick to it. Naturally, it will take some time to get used to this new arrangement. Try to be patient with each other and the children as you begin this new journey. If specific times and pick-up arrangements have been agreed upon, try your best to honor those decisions. After some time of cooperating with your new co-parenting plan, you or your ex-spouse may feel it isn’t working well, and some changes need to be made. In many cases, these changes can be made, and easily agreed upon between both parents. However, if you do not agree on a change, you and your ex-spouse will need to go back to your divorce or child custody attorneys and begin working on revisions to your original plan. Remember, as negative feelings emerge, you should always consider the children and what is best for them.

Co-Parenting Classes

Classes are available and required to proceed with your divorce. Your divorce attorney has the information you need for attending these classes. The co-parenting classes are designed to help you learn to parent in a new way. You are no longer under the same roof and no longer married; however, you will now have a new relationship in co-parenting. It can be overwhelming and confusing at first. The classes are intended to help you understand how co-parenting works and why it is so important.

For all of your divorce and co-parenting questions in Phoenix, AZ, contact the Leather Law Offices, family law attorneys, for a free 30-minute consultation.  Just call 602-866-2111 to schedule an appointment.  Also we urge you to visit our website at “leatherlawoffice.com.”

Posted on Friday, May 1st, 2020 at 11:07 am and is filed under Articles.