Marriage is a milestone many look forward to and viewed in society as a normal step for couples in a long-term relationship. While marriage works for some couples, it doesn’t for many others. Unlike in days past when divorce was frowned upon or discouraged, it is perfectly fine in today’s society to get legally divorced.
In fact, divorces are increasingly common in law today. In America, there is one divorce approximately every 36 seconds. That’s nearly 2,400 divorces per day, 16,800 divorces per week, and 876,000 divorces a year. That might make your head spin, but to family law attorneys, it’s simply all in a day’s work. There is no judgment or condemnation from them, they just want the best for everyone involved.
Whatever your preconceived notions of divorce might be, know that it can be done without malice, anger, and regret if you truly work at it. Here’s how you can have a more amicable divorce.
Having an Amicable Divorce Is Possible
Despite what you may have been led to believe by other couples or the media, it is entirely possible to have an amicable divorce. In fact, you don’t even have to go to court over it if you don’t want to: going through a mediation process with your family law attorney can save time, money, and more than a couple of headaches.
It may be especially important to stay civil and calm throughout the divorce process if you plan to co-parent with your ex-spouse. In trying to figure out visitation rights or custody, you may want to involve child custody attorneys or settle it yourselves through a mediator. Whatever you do, make sure that both you and your spouse are on the same page and that the agreement you sign is legally binding and witnessed by the proper representatives.
Keep Your Expectations Realistic and Be Transparent
Any family law attorney will tell you that divorce is not a walk in the park. By being transparent with your lawyer and spouse about your needs and goals, you can get everything you need out of a divorce without going to war. This can be anything from assets to child custody and more, or intangible things such as visiting a family grave plot, property, or special gatherings.
For example, you may expect to get more financial assets to care for your child if you are granted sole custody. While this may seem fair, it entirely depends on the laws of the area in which you get divorced, and any other governing laws that influence the marriage. If you had a prenuptial agreement, this may invalidate some of those wishes. Every divorce is special, unique, and has troubles relating to its exact situation. Only a qualified and licensed lawyer will be able to provide you with the full details that you require.
It’s always better to air things out in the open or forever hold your peace. Your ex-spouse may want similar things or be totally willing to compromise, which will save a lot of fuss and hassle in the long run. Talk with your family law attorney at the Leather Law Office when you’re considering getting a divorce. Contact our office for a free initial consultation at 602-404-9733.